How do you know if a relationship is actually healthy, or if you've just been hoping it is?
This tool is for anyone who wants to be honest about their relationship.
→ Engaged Couples: Verify your relationship before saying "I do." Don't just hope it's right; know it's right.
→ Gift-Givers: Looking for a meaningful, unique engagement gift that shows you care about their future happiness? This is it.
→ People Questioning: Feeling confused, feeling insane, or feeling unsure? This tool separates feelings from facts.
→ Therapists & Counselors: A structured resource to help clients identify patterns, set boundaries, and build self-worth.
→ Survivors: Rebuilding your sense of what is acceptable and safe.
→ Everyone: Monogamous, polyamorous, and all gender identities and orientations included.
This is not about judging your partner. It is about noticing patterns. If things are great, it can't hurt to take a good look at your relationship under a magnifying glass for a few weeks, can it?
📋 WHAT'S INCLUDED IN YOUR DOWNLOAD
1. The Relationship Reality Checklist:
A universal, ready-to-use checklist covering healthy relationship markers and hard-limit boundaries—reviewed and refined with feedback from a licensed mental health therapist. One version for digital apps, and one version for analog printing on paper.
2. The Blank Customizable Version:
Work with your therapist, counselor, or trusted person to define your priorities and dealbreakers. This is 100% yours, because no one else gets to decide what you deserve in a relationship.
3. Digital Stickers for GoodNotes & Similar Apps:
Track your weekly check-ins with visual stickers designed for digital planners. Beautiful, functional, and discreet.
4. Scoring Chart and Tracking Grid:
Track the weekly patterns of your relationship with a simple, easy to read chart that gathers all your results into one table of information.
5. Instructions & Guidance:
How to use the checklist, how often to check in, and how to interpret what you're seeing without judgment, and without shame.
⚠️ IMPORTANT
The Relationship Reality Check is a self-reflection exercise. It is not a clinical tool nor diagnosis, and it is not a substitute for professional mental health care.
If you are in immediate danger in the US, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788. For mental health crisis in the US please contact 988. Outside the US, please contact your local domestic violence or mental health support hotline.
You deserve safety. You deserve truth.
Buy once, use forever. Unlimited prints for personal use. Never stay in an unhealthy relationship again.
